All throughout high school and college, my mother would tell me “A relationship is not a moving train. You can always get off.”
As a girl, I felt a lot of pressure to find a good Christian guy and get married. My parents got married at the ripe old ages of nineteen and twenty… Just to turn up the heat on that pressure cooker. As a result, my relationships got real serious, real fast.
One minute we’d be on the first date, the next we’re saying those three little words, and then before I could take a breath we’re talking about wedding dates and baby names.
And then I see the first red flag.
This was anything from a family I didn’t fit with to a hidden battle with depression, or simply not clicking on an emotional level. The red flags signal me to stop, but I had made all these plans. I made a commitment. It moved so fast, and I felt like I couldn’t get off.
But it’s not a moving train.
Don’t allow yourself to keep moving in a relationship that you know is not right or not healthy for you. I’ve seen too many friends and family fall into that trap because it is the easiest path… It most often ends in broken hearts and broken marriages.
Ending a relationship is hard, and at times even embarrassing. But I’m so glad I didn’t allow my bad relationships to linger. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have been free to meet and marry the love of my life.
Hold out for the real deal, and pray like crazy that God is preparing his heart for yours.