When I went on my frightening first date with my now-husband, I spent hours trying on outfits and testing them out with friends. I wanted my look to say just the right thing and I was so nervous I couldn’t stop second guessing myself. I finally settled on a rose-print lace top, dark skinny jeans, and my killer black leather boots. I tried to pin on a little confidence, but it just didn’t want to stick.
I entered the coffee shop and found him right away. He was wearing a white knit sweater and a scarf. A scarf! How many guys can pull off a fashion scarf in Indiana? Not enough, in my opinion. His hair was perfect and those dark chocolate eyes locked right on me. Then he said the most terrifying thing possible. “Don’t tell me anything about yourself. Let’s give each other five clues and we’ll guess.”
What in the world?!
I did not want to guess. More accurately, I did not want to guess wrong. This proposed game opened me up to a lot of embarrassment and it was waaaaaaay too early to be embarrassed. However, I felt it would also say the wrong thing about me if I didn’t go along with his plan, so I gave him specific clues like “love crocheting” and “moved from Indiana to Ohio and back.”
He gave me “friends,” “cars,” “Mexico,” and “Sweden.” Yikes.
Needless to say, I did not do well on the whole guessing thing. But I managed not to say anything offensive, and that’s really the only good thing I can say. He did a fantastic job guessing about me. Just to add a little salt to that wound.
He told me about himself–he speaks four languages and had been everywhere I wanted to go–and I became enthralled. Maybe even a little more than I wanted to be. (I had sworn off relationships after all.) And as his face lit up when he talked about his work and all the amazing things he was doing, I found my frightening first date wasn’t so frightening after all.
I left that night, knowing I had met someone special. I had no idea where our path would lead, but I did know I wanted to learn more about him… Though I preferred not to guess.
What about your first date story? It doesn’t have to be with the love of your life. I’ve found that so many nerves are poured into first dates that they’re almost always memorable, so tell us about yours!
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