So as I researched other Christian girl blogs, I found that modesty was a topic almost all had talked about. Project Inspired’s What a Bikini Taught Me About Modesty and Set Apart Girl’s A Closet Without Conformity made some interesting points–some of which I agreed with, some of which I did not. Mostly, they got me thinking about the topic again.
For the past two years, I hadn’t given a thought to modesty. From the moment I said “I do,” I didn’t stop to consider the modesty question because I could wear whatever I wanted in front of my husband and I was no longer searching for the attention of other guys. From then on, it was simply, “Do I feel comfortable?” and “Does my husband like it?”
I stopped obsessing over skirt length and bikinis, because no one’s attention mattered except my husband’s. And then, bam! Those articles hit me like a ton of bricks and made me reexamine my actions and attitudes.
I found something interesting that I hadn’t thought of before. I began to think of modesty as an attitude and less of a skirt length. Much of my wardrobe is the same as before when I was married, but I’m no longer drawing stares because I’m not looking to. I’m not flaunting my curves and my dresses, I’m just quietly confident in my own skin and my husband’s admiration. My eyes are only for him and so is my outfit.
So if the same clothes are getting a different reaction, what does that tell me? What does that tell you?
(I want to make it clear that I am not saying that all types of clothing are fine as long as your attitude is right. I don’t think that. I think if you’re treating modesty as an attitude, there are clothes you won’t even consider.)
How you wear your clothes may be just as important as what clothes you wear.
What are your thoughts on modesty? Do you have any hard and fast rules about what types of clothing is or is not allowed? Do you think your attitude makes a difference?
I would love to know your thoughts… and I’m not just saying that! This topic has been weighing on my heart and mind recently, and I’m fascinated by others takes on this broad debate.
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