Taking the high road can be lonely and frustrating, but it’s worth it in the long run.
What is the “high road”?
The phrase “taking the high road,” means not retaliating. When someone makes an unkind comment or cuts in line, our instinct is to react and get even. Taking the high road, means we let the comment or action pass without reaction.
Why would I want to take the high road?
Quick, harsh words or actions can give us instant gratification, but they can do long lasting damage. An “I hate you!” screamed in the middle of a argument can feel good in the moment, but words like that stick in the minds of family and friends long after the fight is over. Maybe you’ve never said that, but what about those mean little comments. The ones that really sting because you know the other person’s weak spots.
What does taking the high road look like?
In those long-standing relationships–parents, siblings, spouses–we learn what makes the other person tick. We’ve been around them long enough to know which buttons to push to drive them through the roof. When take the high road, need to be award of those weak spots so that you AVOID them. In the heat of the moment, you’ll want nothing more than to poke at those buttons with a big sharp stick. But you can’t. Not if you want a healthy relationship.
With family and friends, you must learn how to have healthy disagreements. So you need to drum up those communication skills and calmly tell the other person why you’re upset.
Are there any short term benefits to taking the high road?
It will shorten the length of your fight. I can’t tell you how many times, in my experience, an argument has grown or changed directions because of someone’s quick words. All of the sudden, the fight is no longer about the original, but it’s about the mean comment. If you make the mean comment or serve one right back, this circular argument can go on forever!
Do you take the high road in arguments? What helps you hold your tongue? What has happened when you didn’t hold your tongue?
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